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The Business of Survival: When Did Living Become a Luxury?

An editorial on economic survival, human dignity, and the freedom to simply exist.

What if I just wanted to exist?

We are born into a world where the land already exists. The oceans already exist. The trees produce fruit. The sun provides warmth. Nature operates through extraordinarily complex systems without ever issuing an invoice. Yet human existence has become deeply intertwined with earning, purchasing, and producing. When did humanity lose the plot and turn living into surviving? The most obvious answer might seem to be capitalism, but the deeper question concerns our autonomy. Generations before us inherited and maintained economic systems they believed would provide sustainable ways of living. Yet the conditions under which millions of people now struggle to survive raise a question worth examining: Who taught us that simply existing is something we have to earn?

Don’t get me wrong. Life requires labor. Whether through food production, environmental protection, healthcare, or technological advancement, human effort is essential to sustaining civilization. I’m not arguing that labor is unnecessary, that resources should be unlimited, or that society could function without economic organization. I’m questioning whether an economy designed to sustain human civilization has instead made economic productivity one of the dominant measures of human worth.

The Economics of Survival

While major corporations generate enormous revenues and executive compensation continues to climb, millions of working Americans struggle to afford basic necessities. According to the Economic Policy Institute, inflation-adjusted compensation for CEOs at the largest U.S. firms increased approximately 1,316% between 1978 and 2025, compared with just 28% for typical workers (Gould & Bivens, 2026). Meanwhile, the National Low Income Housing Coalition estimates that a full-time worker must earn $29.19 per hour to afford a modest one-bedroom rental at the national fair-market rent without spending more than 30% of their income on housing. The average renter earns just $24.84 per hour (National Low Income Housing Coalition, 2026). These figures reveal a troubling contradiction between the wealth generated within our economy and the financial security available to many of the people sustaining it.

Housing is only one part of the equation. Food, transportation, healthcare, and childcare all compete for household income. For working parents, childcare can become an expense comparable to housing itself. The Federal Reserve reported that most families paying for both childcare and housing in 2025 spent at least half as much on childcare as they did on housing (Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve System, 2026). Meanwhile, healthcare costs have become so burdensome that even some medical professionals are reconsidering their own insurance coverage. In September 2026, KFF Health News reported on a physician and pharmacist who opted to forgo health insurance for their family after their monthly premiums approached $1,600 (Norimine, 2026). Although most medical professionals remain insured, the fact that a family providing healthcare professionally could find coverage financially unreasonable illustrates how deeply affordability concerns extend into American society.

These are not extravagant purchases or unnecessary luxuries. They are fundamental components of maintaining a household and participating in society. Yet for many Americans, affording them leaves little room for savings, recreation, or long-term planning. We’ve created an economic environment in which obtaining the necessities of life can consume so much of our income that enjoying the life we’re working to maintain becomes a secondary consideration.

For decades, Americans have been encouraged to believe that hard work, education, financial discipline, and professional advancement provide a dependable path toward success. Yet pursuing that path can also mean accumulating student debt, financing increasingly expensive vehicles, and paying rent while struggling to save enough to purchase a home. Education can improve earning potential, but it does not guarantee financial independence. Employment can provide stability, but it does not guarantee security. The traditional formula for success has become considerably more complicated than simply working hard and making responsible decisions.

Consider someone working two jobs to maintain a household. Losing either source of income could threaten the stability that person spent years building. According to the Federal Reserve’s 2025 household survey, 16% of American adults reported not paying all their bills in full during the previous month (Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve System, 2026). This isn’t merely a hypothetical concern about how people might respond to an unexpected emergency. For millions of Americans, financial instability is already part of their monthly reality. That vulnerability raises a question: Why does maintaining stability require nearly as much effort as achieving it?

Food production, infrastructure, healthcare, and essential services will always require human labor and investment. But human ingenuity has also produced extraordinary advancements in automation, communication, and efficiency. If technological progress allows society to accomplish more with fewer resources, why hasn’t that progress consistently translated into greater freedom for the people doing the work?

The Rat Race Disguised as Achievement

We’ve been conditioned to pursue education, employment, promotions, and professional advancement as milestones of success. We accumulate qualifications to access opportunities that may otherwise remain unavailable. As we advance, we’re often expected to accept greater responsibilities in exchange for higher compensation. Yet increased earnings don’t necessarily eliminate financial pressure, particularly when housing costs, debt, and other obligations continue to consume household income. Reaching one milestone frequently introduces another expectation rather than a meaningful opportunity to enjoy what we’ve accomplished.

Somewhere along the way, our sense of value became closely associated with occupation, income, professional status, education, and possessions. We celebrate financial success while frequently treating unemployment, poverty, and economic dependence as reflections of personal inadequacy. But does a person’s humanity become less valuable when they’re unemployed, retired, disabled, providing unpaid care, or choosing a lifestyle that produces less economic output? When did our worth become so closely connected to participation in a financial system that humanity itself predates?

Job insecurity, excessive workloads, underemployment, and poor work-life balance are not merely professional inconveniences. They can affect physical health, emotional well-being, relationships, and the ability to enjoy life outside employment. The World Health Organization and International Labour Organization estimated that working 55 hours or more per week contributed to approximately 745,000 deaths worldwide from stroke and ischemic heart disease in 2016 (World Health Organization & International Labour Organization, 2021). The pursuit of economic progress becomes difficult to celebrate when the conditions under which that progress is achieved can compromise the well-being of the people responsible for it.

When Pleasure Becomes a Privilege

Even leisure has become deeply intertwined with consumption. Recreation, travel, entertainment, and social experiences are frequently marketed as things we must purchase. Many workers spend much of their waking lives earning money, only to spend portions of that income purchasing temporary experiences of freedom during the limited time they have away from work. Rest becomes something scheduled around productivity rather than an ordinary part of human existence.

I wonder what this constant pressure has done to our collective sense of whimsy. How often do we pursue hobbies without considering whether they could generate revenue? How often do we allow ourselves to read for pleasure, explore nature, create art, fall in love, rest, or satisfy our curiosity without expecting something measurable in return? Even creativity can become entangled with branding, monetization, and marketability. We’re encouraged to turn our personalities into personal brands, our hobbies into side hustles, and our interests into opportunities for financial advancement. But a meaningful life must have room for experiences that are valuable precisely because they don’t need to accomplish anything.

What Would an Economy Designed for Living Look Like?

In an advanced society, labor would still be necessary. However, human dignity would not depend upon a person’s ability to toil. Economic progress should not be evaluated exclusively through production, profitability, and growth. Security, leisure, health, environmental sustainability, and quality of life should also influence how we define success. What good is a thriving economy if the people sustaining it cannot consistently enjoy the benefits of their contributions?

A society that prioritizes human well-being might invest more heavily in affordable housing, accessible healthcare, paid leave, stronger worker protections, and a more equitable distribution of productivity gains. It might also reconsider how businesses measure the success of technological advancement. Rather than evaluating innovation primarily through its potential to reduce payroll expenses, organizations could examine whether technology improves working conditions, strengthens public services, or solves problems that human labor alone has struggled to address.

Artificial intelligence makes this question especially relevant. As businesses explore replacing administrative, customer service, and other routine functions with automated systems, the conversation frequently centers on operational efficiency and reduced labor costs.But efficiency for whom? When a company reduces the number of employees required to complete a task, the resulting savings can benefit shareholders and executives without necessarily improving the lives of displaced workers. Technological progress does not inherently require that outcome. Businesses could use a portion of the gains to retrain employees, shorten working hours, improve wages, or transition workers into responsibilities that require greater human judgment, creativity, and interpersonal understanding.

Consider what technological innovation could accomplish if improving human life were treated as a primary objective. Autonomous systems could assist with removing pollution from waterways, monitoring environmental hazards, or performing dangerous industrial cleanup. Healthcare technology could help medical professionals detect diseases earlier, reduce administrative burdens, and expand access to services in underserved communities. Automation could reduce repetitive physical labor in occupations where workers face significant injury risks. These applications would still require investment, maintenance, oversight, and skilled workers. The difference would be the priorities guiding their development.

This isn’t an argument against automating administrative work. Repetitive office tasks can be exhausting, and eliminating unnecessary work can be beneficial. The problem arises when society celebrates the reduction of human labor without giving equal consideration to what happens to the humans whose labor is no longer required. If technology allows us to produce more while working less, shouldn’t at least some of that progress be reflected in greater economic security and personal freedom?

Critics might reasonably ask: If people didn’t have to work so hard to survive, who would perform the work society requires? That question deserves serious consideration. Essential services still need workers, businesses need resources, and economic systems must address incentives, funding, labor shortages, and fairness. Reducing financial insecurity would not eliminate these challenges. Nor would every industry be able to shorten working hours or increase compensation without facing difficult trade-offs.

However, the goal isn’t necessarily to eliminate work. It’s to reconsider the conditions under which people work and the extent to which survival should depend on enduring economic insecurity. A society with greater financial stability could still reward skill, effort, innovation, and professional achievement. It could also recognize that unpaid caregiving, community involvement, artistic expression, and other contributions have social value even when they don’t produce conventional wages or corporate profits.

What would business look like if success were measured not only by the accumulation of wealth but also by the needs it fulfilled without unnecessarily exhausting the people involved? Employment could still provide financial incentives, professional development, and personal fulfillment. Businesses could still innovate and compete. But the pursuit of profit would not have to be treated as more important than every other measure of social progress.

Even our relationship with the environment could benefit from reconsidering these priorities. Commuting, resource-intensive production, excessive consumption, and inefficient infrastructure all have environmental consequences. Although reducing working hours or expanding remote work would not automatically eliminate those impacts, economic planning that considers both environmental sustainability and human well-being could create opportunities to reduce unnecessary resource consumption.

The objective would be to create an economy in which human beings have greater opportunities to contribute meaningfully without sacrificing their health, relationships, or sense of self. Work should be one component of a meaningful life, not the condition upon which every other component depends.

The Freedom to Simply Exist

Humanity has achieved extraordinary technological and economic advancement, yet millions of people still experience daily life as a continuous struggle to secure basic necessities. Can a society truly distinguish itself as successful when so many people lack the time, stability, and freedom to enjoy what they work so hard to maintain?

Perhaps the greatest measure of human progress should not be how much we can produce, how quickly we can innovate, or how much wealth we can accumulate. Perhaps it should be how successfully we’ve created a civilization in which people have the security and freedom to experience what it actually means to be alive.

A society should not exist merely to sustain an economy. An economy should exist to sustain society.

We should have the freedom to live, love, explore, create, and simply exist.


References

Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve System. (2026). Report on the economic well-being of U.S. households in 2025. https://www.federalreserve.gov/publications/2026-economic-well-being-of-us-households-in-2025-executive-summary.htm

Gould, E., & Bivens, J. (2026, September 17). CEO pay surged in 2025: CEOs are paid 325 times as much as the typical worker. Economic Policy Institute. https://www.epi.org/blog/ceo-pay-surged-in-2025-ceos-are-paid-325-times-as-much-as-the-typical-worker/

National Low Income Housing Coalition. (2026). Out of reach 2026: The high cost of housing.https://nlihc.org/news/nlihc-releases-out-reach-2026-high-cost-housing

Norimine, H. (2026, September 22). As health insurance costs soar, healthcare workers also feel the pinch. KFF Health News. https://kffhealthnews.org/health-care-costs/uninsured-doctors-obamacare-affordable-care-act-aca-rising-premiums-idaho/

World Health Organization & International Labour Organization. (2021, May 17). Long working hours increasing deaths from heart disease and stroke: WHO, ILO. https://www.who.int/news/item/17-05-2021-long-working-hours-increasing-deaths-from-heart-disease-and-stroke-who-ilo

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A Baldwin Summer 📚 #SummerReadingList

It’s A Baldwin Summer 📖

What are you reading this Summer? 🤓📚

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AM Vibes – June 16th

Lately, I’ve been relying deeply on Youtube DJ’s for the vibes. I appreciate their ability to capture a mood and keep you encapsulated in that energy. So, I’ve decided to start a series highlighting Youtube DJ’s.

Today’s AM Vibes was her first DJ set on her own channel via Youtube, Mrs_Fallback

(https://www.instagram.com/mrs_fallback/) .

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Procrastination Kills The Dream

For decades I’ve walked around with the dreams of a conglomerate floating around in my head . Just waiting…, waiting for alignment, waiting for advancement, waiting for a sign. Just waiting… Now here I am approaching my middle thirties with nothing to show for the dreams I mapped out so perfectly in my head but never executed. I know what people will say… dreams take time, you’re not behind, failures are redirections. The truth is though, that when I strip away the excuses, it’s procrastination, fear , and a little laziness that has kept me from really doing what I know I’m truly capable of.

Now, I’m not taking anything away from myself. I didn’t come up in an ultra-wealthy family that left an estate for me to grow up cushy on. But, I am the lineage of a man who defied all the odds of his time and did what he had to do to raise 8 children without complaint. A serviceman who gained a unique skillset and utilized that skill day in and day out to ensure his family always had what they needed. Coming from that, I always knew I was capable of anything… and the only thing that ever stopped me from achieving what I want was myself.

As time goes on and I gain wisdom, I’ve had an epiphany. It doesn’t really matter how perfectly you “do” life or how closely you follow the law of the land… life is about chance and alignment. You’ll never receive more than you allow yourself to be ready for. That’s why people who stay in dead end jobs, stay in them forever. They never seek anything more than the check that obliges their current needs. They never pursue the education required to achieve what they truly desire. & sadly, some just don’t believe they can do anything that’ll advance them beyond the bare minimum work that they are required to do to sustain their current lives.

It’s not something to be ashamed of… for African Americans like myself, it’s merely a feature of an unjust system. For hundreds of years, we’ve burned ourselves out being the best of the best in industries that built their riches on our expertise, but kept the compensation for themselves. We see it in the record contracts artists are coerced into signing at the inception of their careers. We see it in the athletes who sign their vitality away to decades old organizations before even beginning their second decade on Earth. We see it in the inventors and the scientists of history whose work was stolen and exploited. We see it, but we’ve taught ourselves that being a part of the system is better than the bloodshed and work that comes with creating a better one.

Much like in my own personal life, I find myself wondering how long we’ll wait. Will another generation go by where we haven’t grown beyond the economical and political circumstances that so deeply affect our lives on a daily? What does the future world look like for our children? Will they still have the bare minimum of free agency and opportunity that we have? We often forget just how close we are to the generations whose lives weren’t their own. In the “good ole days” and even now, slave labor props up the ultra wealthy. A system of underpayment, exploitation, and negligence boasts up multiple industries that pride themselves on morality.

Now that I’ve opened up my eyes to a different perspective in life (see my Awakening Era series), I’m realizing that community is and has always been where our strength lies and the solution to our deepest issues. Thus, why our society is so hellbent on keeping us all divided. In history, long before capitalism and Wall Street, people bartered and traded skills & goods without tender or conflict. The local egg farmer traded with the milkmaid and communities built trust with providers of the skills they desired directly. As capitalism progressed, we lost the true essence of that business relationship. Now, customers are just a number in a system, employees are just a cog in the machine, and the top executives are rapacious plutocrats loaded with riches. “The secret of freedom lies in educating people, whereas the secret of tyranny is in keeping them ignorant.” – Maximilien de Robespierre

In my own life, and in our society, the wake up call has passed. We know the systems of this society are not fruitful for anyone anymore. Personally, my adjustment starts with my career and trusting myself to do what I have to do to succeed. It means sticking to projects until the end, building community directly, and truly putting myself out there. Things I’ve struggled with in my human experience because of how protective I am of my essence. Ultimately though, our essence is our power. As much as we want to keep our essence locked away safely for ourselves, life really starts getting good when you stop being afraid of the world seeing you for who you truly are.

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The Fight For Remote Work

Ebony Martin 

Remote Work Argument 

Professor Bunn 

February 1, 2026  

The Fight for Remote Work 

Infrastructure in any capacity requires adaptability and efficiency. The infrastructure of the workplace is no different. The COVID 19 pandemic quickly highlighted how vulnerable businesses were to circumstances beyond their control. Specifically, what was the game plan if employees were required to stay at home and couldn’t be at work physically on a day-to-day basis? Despite the frenzy, companies quickly adjusted to the change and adapted their businesses to be functional for remote workers. Now that the pandemic restrictions have ceased and traditional workplace practices are resuming, what’s the argument for allowing employees to work remotely or a hybrid model? 

There is a plethora of reasons why remote work should be allowed and embraced in modern day workplaces. The most important reason, to employees and employers, is employee well-being. Remote work cuts the daily commute to work, the cost of daily travel, and the physical weight of being in a traditional brick and mortar environment. “For employees, remote work reduces commuting costs, with the average U.S. worker saving $4,000 annually on transportation and related expenses. Additionally, workers in remote roles often experience a better work-life balance, which contributes to increased job satisfaction and productivity.” (Martin, n.d.)  Employees enjoy a healthier lifestyle and work-life balance. Thus, in turn, producing happier and more productive employees. The mass exodus of employees from companies that forced return to work mandates is proof the employees value flexibility over corporate loyalty.  

With the introduction of remote work, intercultural communication and understanding it, became more important than ever. With traditional forms of communication being limited, employees had to adjust to working in teams utilizing different conferencing formats, like Teams and Webex. Thus, leading to the imperative requirement of gathering knowledge about intercultural communications. This communication is crucial, especially for remote workers, because web conferencing requires empathy, understanding, and diction. Different backgrounds, literally and figuratively, contribute directly to the importance of understanding intercultural communications.  

Overall, remote work is not only beneficial to employees but also employers. If incorporated worldwide and large-scale, remote work could change the trajectory of human life. It could create a greater sense of independence in employees, increasing loyalty, and producing better quality. Reducing carbon footprint by minimizing work travel can also lead to a healthier and more sustainable Earth.  

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First Quarter 🌱

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Q1 is not about rushing — it’s about alignment. January 1st through March 31st is the window to move with clarity, discipline, and intention. No noise, no proving – just focused action and quiet momentum. What we plant now will speak for itself later. 🌱

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The Consort

It was his smile that struck me. I had been following him on social media for quite some time. His calm, grown, & sexy demeanor on his posts and in his stories was mesmerizing. He didn’t seem to have any red flags on his page, which should’ve been one to begin with, but naively… I fell. 

Knowing that we were both Scorpios created this insatiable tension within me. I knew that we could never truly be together but I was curious at how passionate a friendship between us could be. We were, by nature, both irresistibly magnetic, innately loyal, and passionately sexual. In my mind, this was the kinda connection I needed to revive myself from years of celibacy. A connection that wouldn’t end up being a long draining relationship full of drama and strain. 

I envisioned it modeling after a romance from years before where we never needed words to communicate with each other. We only ever let our bodies do the talking. He’d call for me or I’d call for him and we’d show up for the other every time. No games, no dates, no deep intellectual conversations… we’d just fuck each other tirelessly. We never complicated things by questioning if we were meant for more with each other. It was just pure, unfiltered, passionate fucking and deep down I wanted that again. 

The consort had that kind of mystery about him. He seemed like a man that could fuck me the way I needed it and keep it under wraps. So I pursued him. It started with a simple joke with sexual innuendo. It peaked his interest when I showed him that side of me because I was a real stranger to him. Something I should’ve foreseen being a problem in the future, given the state of the world & relationships today lacking authenticity. But he bit, and soon he’d find that my sweetness was genuine. I showered him with gifts, uplifted him with words of affirmation, and even flexed my femininity to him by performing submission rituals for him. A dangerous game I was playing, doing all that for a man that didn’t know me from a can of paint and wasn’t connected to me or my life in any real way. I was a mystery to him and although it intrigued him, it also is what drove him away in the end.

After a couple of missed opportunities, the night had finally come where our bodies would meet. It was a hot August night and the air was thick with tension and passion. I drove to him which offered a sense of protection for me and a sense of control for him. We both were nervous about what this would finally look like now that we were meeting in real life. I brought everything I could to take the edge off us both… liquor and smoke. We didn’t end up needing either though. 

In his kitchen, I stood still for moment… shy. I looked over at him, dick out and erect, nervous… wondering if I had gotten myself into something that I wasn’t ready for after years of being emotionally regulated by isolation. “Don’t act shy now” his voice thundered, cracking the silence that was consuming me internally. As a divine feminine, donning my beads and with full authority over my sexuality, I bent to his will. His command and sternness threw me into a tizzy. I couldn’t hold back sexually from him the way I had originally planned. I didn’t intend to open myself up to him as deeply as I did on night one but it was like cosmically, it was meant for him to bring that side of me back into the light.

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ICYMI: Womanhood




Stepping into my womanhood fully and authentically has made me absolutely feral. Despite still being mostly sexually inactive, my fantasies still run amuck in my brain nearly every minute of every day. I can be in the middle of my work day and suddenly, my pussy will throb… sending me spiraling. Or in the middle of a homework assignment, I’ll have a flashback of me taking dick that sends a chill up my spine and distracts me from my tasks. I’ve felt these urges immensely before, but, women hardly ever talk about it how they takeover your fucking life when your biological clock starts ticking…

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Soul Retrieval

After finally coming out of my shell a short while ago, I was quickly faced with the reality of the world again. Although I may have been healed and eager to experience life again, that didn’t guarantee that I’d be met with a world as open, loving, and honest. I naively went into a new terrain in my life where I wasn’t closed off in closed off spaces anymore… I was open entering closed off spaces.

A person who is closed off entering spaces that are closed off (trauma-ridden hearts, places, and things) is rarely affected deeply by the weight of other things that are closed off. Plainly stated, it’s hard to be affected by the trauma of other things and people when you’re so trapped in your own trauma that you can’t even begin to try and process the indirect trauma around you. For example, someone who is jealous, vindictive, and/or self-centered will go into a nightclub and feel insecure, angry, and defensive. This is because this person is unhealed and can only see themselves. So they self doubt, sabotage, and wallow in their own misery not ever considering how the energy around them is affecting them directly.

Once you’re healed entering these spaces, if you aren’t spiritually sound and aware, you become a vessel of energy for those unhealed things to feed off of. Going back to the example, someone who is healed will enter a club with the desire to dance, make friends, and enjoy a libation. But, if they’re surrounded by people and music that is reflective of the unhealed version of themselves, it has the potential to trigger those same feelings that a person once healed from. You can feel the gaze of the insecure. You can feel the heat coming off the angry. If you don’t practice discernment or remove yourself from those environments, it’s easy for those things to re-pierce your soul and make you closed off again.

Recently, I attempted to explore relations with a man who was unhealed as a healed woman. Without going into too much detail, I gave him access, love, and positive energy. Unfortunately, because he was an unhealed man, I was met with manipulation, lies, and disarray. Although my heart was open at the inception of our relations, his callousness, coldness, and cruelty sowed doubt in me with each interaction. I began questioning my worth again, believing the lies he’d say, and even letting him borrow currency despite my own spirit advising me against it.

It wasn’t until he attempted to disparage me publicly with a lie, in an effort to tear down my public reputation to protect his, that I realized that I wasn’t as healed as I had once thought. I openly set out seeking to be loved and for a brief moment was set back into my unsure, insecure self. All because I allowed myself to be in a space where the heart was closed but mine was open.

Now in this period of Soul Retrieval, returning back home to myself after the trauma of being around the unhealed, I have to take accountability for even being in that space in the first place. I knew after our first encounter that it would never work between us. Hell, I knew before our encounter that it wasn’t going to work. But this open heart of mine wanted to love him into being healed. So, subconsciously, the tether drained me. It drained me of positive energy, self-love, and money. Unfortunately, because of money and his refusal to close the loop on an unpaid debt, I’m still being drained by his unhealed energy. Thus, why I needed to address it head on and call back my energy. A liar and a thief has no dominion in my life. The lies he spread about me publicly will crumble under the weight of his deceitfulness and I will be vindicated. His theft of my funds will not bankrupt me. The cord is cut.

The lesson I’m taking away from this experience is… Once healed, going into spaces that are full of disarray, sorrow, and trauma will only set you back on your spiritual journey. Approaching an environment or situation with an open heart in any circumstances requires strength and the ability to recognize when it’s time to walk away and step back into your power. Because staying in unhealed spaces as someone who has done their shadow work only exposes you to the shadows of those who haven’t.

– Ebony Queen

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Breaking Out My Shell

Last week was the New Moon In Leo and I’ve never felt more like myself than I do here and now. Breaking out of my shell meant going through a deep tumultuous awakening in which I’ve talked about in this Awakening series since April now. It’s time, now more than ever, for me to step into the spotlight without fear. I’ve entered the third decade of my life with grace and poise. Now it’s time to really show my ass.

I’ve been trapped in a world of all the things that I couldn’t do for so long, I am a little nervous about what I am open to doing now that I can. I no longer conform to the heteronormativity of monogamy that has held me captive from my own passions and desires. I don’t subscribe to a religion where my deities love for me limits me from life. I am no longer drawn to relationships and friendships that drain me rather than reciprocating the love they receive. Breaking out of my shell has truly been about finally being okay with being perceived, correctly or incorrectly.

In life, the hardest thing to overcome is the fear of perception. We choose certain jobs because they look good to the world, not because that’s what we REALLY want to do. We stay in relationships that are superficial and unfulfilling because society teaches us it’s better to be with someone than to be alone. We dress and groom ourselves based on what society deems is fashionable and if you aren’t aligned with it, you’re deemed unfashionable publicly. Those who are able to break free of these stigmas and thought patterns are the ones who are able to reach for everything they dream of and achieve it. It’s because they can dance without fear of being seen, write without fear of what to say, and sing without fear of being heard.

How can we truly achieve our dreams if the ones we actually have are suppressed out of fear, rejection, and/or doubt? Personally writing, in many different forms, has always been a major part of my innate design. It’s been a guaranteed facet of my life that probably would’ve enhanced my life earlier had I felt the freedom to explore it more wholly sooner.

A great example of this right now is Beyonce. She recently (last night 7/26/2025) completed her Cowboy Carter Tour, the second installment of her 3 act album tour for Renaissance. Although to many of us, it seems as though Beyonce has always carried the confidence that we see her rock on stage, this era showed us a different perspective. Her country album was, in her own words via Instagram, “born out of an experience that I had years ago where I did not feel welcomed.” In 2016, Beyonce was invited to the Country Music Awards to perform her first country crossover track “Daddy Lessons” from her 2016 album Lemonade. Beyonce took that uncomfortable moment where she was made to feel unwelcome in a place where she and others knew she belonged and turned that ill will into her first AOTY Grammy win for Cowboy Carter.

As it applies to my own life, and maybe to yours too, the lesson here is that in order to be your most authentic self, its important to understand and be okay with knowing that someone else’s perception of you doesn’t make you who you are. We make ourselves who we are… and if we spent our whole life living for what others deemed appropriate, we’d never truly be happy. So in this next era of my own, after breaking out my shell, that’s my ultimate destination… Authentically Happy.

Ebony Queen

References

Beyoncé on Instagram: “act II cowboy Carter 3.29 today marks the 10-day countdown until the release of act II. (n.d.). Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/p/C4s6Zr7rlwA/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Beyoncé brings out destiny’s child for surprise reunion during final cowboy Carter show in Las Vegas. (2025, July 27). People.com. https://people.com/destinys-child-reunites-beyonce-final-show-las-vegas-11779800

Nytimes.com. (2016, November 4). The New York Times – Breaking News, US News, World News and Videos. https://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/04/arts/music/beyonce-cma-awards-backlash.html